5 To 1 Relationships
Research suggests that it takes 5 positive comments to every 1 negative remark to have a successful relationship. Some may immediately dismiss this as “pie in the sky” optimism that is not reality. Before you join that point of view, think about this: Who do you enjoy being around more, someone who is constantly critical and negative or someone who is generally upbeat and positive. Those who claim they are realists are the ones who are too self-absorbed to look for the positive traits in others.
Words, tone, and attitude matter. How we demonstrate each of these is our choice. If you create a negative environment, then your relationships will suffer and deteriorate. If we create a positive environment, we will see our relationships flourish. People like to be around those who like them and who make them feel wanted and valued.
It is our responsibility to invest in the relationships that are important to us. I challenge you to try the 5 to 1 ratio in your significant relationships. Focus on speaking with authentic encouragement instead of self-centered criticism. Someone told me recently that giving an unsolicited opinion is merely unasked for criticism.
Choose to create 5 to 1 relationships and you will make a difference.
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